I was a Sartre fanatic as an undergrad phil major. I remember having heated arguments with an ex-boyfriend about the Sartrian concept of the Other, and his disturbing take on romantic love that is “doomed to fail.”
Yeah, “Hell is the Other” indeed and all that anti-love rhetoric. I bought all that—hook, line and sinker—naturally, that caused us a lot of fights. I remember the ex saying sarcastically that I should keep Sartre out of our lives because he’s dead. Nyahaha. Oo nga naman. When the ex and I parted ways, I rediscovered a healthier, more positive concept of love, but no thanks to this film I watched on DVD the other day, I am back to revisiting my old views.
Closer is a film for people who do not mind looking at themselves, and re-examining their views about love, sex, the nature of truth, honesty, and betrayal. I was telling my friend Noelle that it has two of the most heart-wrenching break-up scenes that I have ever watched on screen.
Anyone who’s ever been dumped—drama queen or not—can relate with the lines, “Please don’t leave me, I love you!”
That sounds pathetic but here’s more, “No one will ever love you the way I do. You know I will always love you.” Arrrgh. It’s frightening what truly desperate people could say in these circumstances. But I wonder, did they really mean it at the time they said it, or were they just lying to themselves?
And if you happen to have been on the other end of the dumping game, you’d also be able to relate to the gnawing feelings of guilt, relief, and anticipation of future jealousy (as you and your soon-to-be-ex are discussing her prospects of being out on the market as a free agent) all rolled into one ball of tangled confusion. How do you honestly say goodbye and at the same time deal with the barrage of questions that are sure to come your way?
Questions like:
Who is he? Who is she (Just insert pronoun of choice)?
Did you go to bed with her?
Did you do it in (insert-favorite-shagging place-here)?
While you were doing me, were you thinking of her?
Now since you’re the one causing him all this pain for initiating the break-up, you now feel like you owe it to him to be HONEST. But do you really have to answer all his questions? To make you feel less like the scum that you really are, do you lie one last time, and say that he’s much better? Ahhhh, but that wouldn’t make sense now would it, as if he’d believe you. If you lie, you won't get away with it because he'd now ask, "If it's so much better with me then why are we breaking up?" Ooops. So you try to do the decent thing, and be totally forthright.
Then all HELL breaks loose.
You used to be lovers but now you’re sworn enemies, dreaming of that day when the injured party finally gets his or her vengeance. You want revenge on your ex and that rat who stole your lover. The dumper still feels guilty but hopes that the ex doesn't find a better lover as he hates to be compared with anyone. Such is the size of his... um, ego.
This is what Closer is about. Not exactly a date-movie. Not too cerebral either. I’m not even sure that it has “heart” because all four characters seem more concerned about pursuing their own interests. But it does make you wonder about how and why people end up hurting the ones they claim to love. Why do these people seem really clueless about how to get some light into their lives? And why are they so great at complicating matters? Are they for real?
Oh yes they are. If anything’s most disturbing about this movie it’s that the characters are way too real. In their quest for that all-elusive happiness in true love, they manipulate each other in the name of empty rhetoric such as “truth” and “honesty.” Weirdly enough I see a little bit of myself in all of them:
Anna, and my “gloomy,” “depressed” side.
Alice, and my spontaneity, including free-spirited ways.
Dan, and his quest for “truth” while he himself remains guarded.
and even nice, boring old Larry who could be real evil when crossed.
Hmmm… I’m thinking about watching this film a second time, hoping that I’d feel more upbeat about it. I highly recommend this film to the sawi and those who need to vent. This movie will cheer you on as you trash love and mush and all things soupy.
But a word of caution to the already angsty and the highly suggestible, do postpone watching this film until you are more emotionally stable. Else expect a downward spiralling.
Wheeee!
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